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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2010 22:13:46 GMT
Grandmother actually, and I was named after her nickname. Like I said, I'm going to change it right around the time I get married, lol.
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 16, 2010 22:42:51 GMT
So, does that mean I can't trick you into revealing your name?lol
By the way.........Congratulations!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2010 22:46:10 GMT
My name is in my reviewer profile which is attached to my signature. Thanks! We just need to settle on a date...we've been engaged for five years now, haha!
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 16, 2010 22:59:14 GMT
Yeah, I knew it.............just rying to get you to say (type) it. I personally like your name but Midori is tre cool and fits you well and if it makes you happy.........outstanding!
I wonder how many hits your Reviewer Profile is going to get now???
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2010 23:11:32 GMT
You know...I was wondering the same thing. ;D
Thanks. Midori does fit me better than my current name, lol...which I'm still not going to spell out. XD
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 16, 2010 23:14:54 GMT
;D
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2010 23:24:14 GMT
I hear that, which is another reason I'm changing my name. Plus I'm named after someone I can't stand. ...I have way too many reasons to hate my name, lol. Well, I'm named after two of the 50 United States that is more common as a girl's name than a boy's, so... Do I really need to detail why I hate it?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2010 23:52:44 GMT
So if you hate it so badly...change it! Actually, I have a brother and a sister with the same problem.
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Post by shadowhowler on Sept 17, 2010 0:11:44 GMT
When my wife and I got married... the question of names came up. Would she keep hers... take my name... would I take hers? I wanted to create a NEW family name that both of us would then adopt... start out own line together. That way she would not have to 'take my name' as some sort of man-dominated custom... and we would not have different names... we would greet the world with our new name. I thought it was a romantic idea. She hated the idea... and took my name. Its still the one big thing I never understood... I really thought it would be awesome... she thought the idea was stupid.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 0:24:23 GMT
I think that's kind of a cool idea, too! I am gonna take Kev's name when we get married; seems less people have trouble pronouncing it, and I like it better than my own.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 0:34:07 GMT
Midori; I've looked into name changes and if it's small, you can change it just through use, but if it's a major change (which mine would be since I'd be changing both my first and last names and possibly my middle name), you have to essentially get a court order to do so, which you can't get without a good reason and I doubt "I hate my name because people tease me for it" is sufficient.
For reference, my name is Dakota and you would not believe how often I had to put up with "north or south" references as a child and ever since Dakota Fanning came into the spotlight, people who just read my name automatically assume I'm female.
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Post by kidcasanova on Sept 17, 2010 3:45:48 GMT
Midori; I've looked into name changes and if it's small, you can change it just through use, but if it's a major change (which mine would be since I'd be changing both my first and last names and possibly my middle name), you have to essentially get a court order to do so, which you can't get without a good reason and I doubt "I hate my name because people tease me for it" is sufficient. For reference, my name is Dakota and you would not believe how often I had to put up with "north or south" references as a child and ever since Dakota Fanning came into the spotlight, people who just read my name automatically assume I'm female. For what it's worth, Dakota is also the name of a famous and influential piece of architecture in New York, which has housed maaaany famous people during important moments of their life. Dakota is also very well-established as a male name with more than a few renowned men sharing your name. We all get teased for something, obviously the ones who teased you weren't very bright. IMO changing your name would be like admitting defeat, but I also know what it's like to want to change something you're not comfortable with. Whatever your decision, I'm sure those close to you will be supportive. Sean, that's actually a pretty neat idea. Shame your wife didn't appreciate it. You could have constructed a new sigil for your house and everything.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 4:34:46 GMT
Midori; I've looked into name changes and if it's small, you can change it just through use, but if it's a major change (which mine would be since I'd be changing both my first and last names and possibly my middle name), you have to essentially get a court order to do so, which you can't get without a good reason and I doubt "I hate my name because people tease me for it" is sufficient. For reference, my name is Dakota and you would not believe how often I had to put up with "north or south" references as a child and ever since Dakota Fanning came into the spotlight, people who just read my name automatically assume I'm female. For what it's worth, Dakota is also the name of a famous and influential piece of architecture in New York, which has housed maaaany famous people during important moments of their life. Dakota is also very well-established as a male name with more than a few renowned men sharing your name. We all get teased for something, obviously the ones who teased you weren't very bright. IMO changing your name would be like admitting defeat, but I also know what it's like to want to change something you're not comfortable with. Whatever your decision, I'm sure those close to you will be supportive. Sean, that's actually a pretty neat idea. Shame your wife didn't appreciate it. You could have constructed a new sigil for your house and everything. This I know. It's also the name of an entire Native American tribe as well as a subsequent word in their language meaning 'friend.' But all that amounts to donkey semprini because of Dakota Fanning. She's in the spotlight now, which means that's what people think of. But that's really only part of it; I've always hated my entire name. I've hated Dakota for obvious reason, and I hate my nickname Koty (a shortening of Dakota) because people either spell it Cody or they think it's Katy, again leading to them thinking I'm female. I hate my middle name Wayne because I was born right after the Tim Burton Batman movie came out and grew up during the subsequent Batman Returns, Batman Forever, and Batman & Robin movies. Plus, while I actually sorta like my last name Krieger, which is German for 'Warrior' and was an occupational name given to mercenaries (how cool is a name with that heritage?), the fact is, it's been mispronounced by everyone outside my family at least once despite it having the same core component as Blitzkrieg, and nobody can freaking spell it right. At this point, I don't give a damn about pride and the only thing stopping me is the fact I need a court order to change my name so drastically. Anyways, a few deep breaths later and I'm sorry for that little rant of mine; my name's just always been a sore spot with me and the fact that my mom was enthralled with the name (and still thinks it's a great name) has prevented me from even hinting that I want to change it.
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Post by kidcasanova on Sept 17, 2010 4:48:18 GMT
Dude, I feel you on the name thing. I get Aaron Carter references even now, in my twenties. Still get the occasional Captain Kirk reference (middle name is Kirk) and people ask me all the time if I'm related to Don Henley of the Eagles since that's my last name (coincidentally, my dad's name IS Don Henley. Imagine how he must feel. ). So I feel where you're coming from on the name.
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 17, 2010 4:56:07 GMT
I think Dakota is a cool name..........kind of like Shane in my mind. I know a lot of Wayne's and I never once associated any of them with Batman's alter ego. Now if you ran around with bat ears and mask, a cape, and a utility belt, I guess I can see where that could be a problem. People almost always mispronounce and misspell my last name as well but I have never hated it. I actually take some pride in it as I have some notorious ancestors of note......such as Doc Scurlock of Billy the Kid fame. I can't tell you how many times I have been called Sturlock and Sherlock as people are reading my name in print ( no t or he) and heard the phrase "No Sh*t Sherlock". The name is still just fine. The misuse of a name is a reflection on the abuser, not the abused. Though your feelings about your name may be valid, a change in perspective may be helpful if not a complete turn about in the way you feel about it.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 6:28:21 GMT
Dude, I feel you on the name thing. I get Aaron Carter references even now, in my twenties. Still get the occasional Captain Kirk reference (middle name is Kirk) and people ask me all the time if I'm related to Don Henley of the Eagles since that's my last name (coincidentally, my dad's name IS Don Henley. Imagine how he must feel. ). So I feel where you're coming from on the name. I gotta say, though, the Kirk bit wouldn't be all that bad 'cause there are a countless number of people who think Kirk is a badass, but, personally, I'd punch anyone who made an Aaron Carter reference around me in the face. @utility: A valid idea, but I think it's a little late after twenty years of being mocked for my name. Plus, I've always had low self-esteem and I've been depressed for half my life, so such a positive change is easier said than... Well, I'll forgo the cliched saying and simply say it's next to impossible.
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 17, 2010 9:04:31 GMT
Anything is possible, especailly if undertaken in small steps a day at a time. You have already identified the issue and your goal which is far from insurmountable as it only calls for a change in the way you think about something. Wrapping your head around the change is actually easy if you truly desire it. or you can continue on the way you feel now with hard feelings toward others about something that is truly small in the scheme of things. There is drama enough in our lives without looking for or creating more on our own.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 9:17:16 GMT
Heck, despite my own name becoming more common in recent years I have to give lessons in pronunciation every time I get introduced to somebody new. My name is simply "Lee" at most of my jobs just because I don't feel like giving people lessons in how to pronounce a name that's only four letters and two syllables long.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2010 10:49:51 GMT
Heck, despite my own name becoming more common in recent years I have to give lessons in pronunciation every time I get introduced to somebody new. My name is simply "Lee" at most of my jobs just because I don't feel like giving people lessons in how to pronounce a name that's only four letters and two syllables long. I'm sorry, but this begs me to question "How in the hell do you mispronounce Liam?" @slave: Humor me, here. No matter who you are, if you're told something enough, you start believing it; simple fact. Now, imagine for the better part of 20 years (about 14-15 if you want to get technical), I have been told by my peers that my name is stupid, I'm worthless, and all sorts of other unpleasantness. Some of them, such as the fact that I'm overweight, are true. But that's not the issue. Whether they're true or not, you will believe something if it's repeated often enough, there's no two ways about it. Changing someone's beliefs (about the world, themselves, or others) is about as easy as, say, semprini-slapping a lion and living to talk about it: it's possible, but nigh improbable.
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Post by Dave(utilityslave) on Sept 17, 2010 11:34:37 GMT
Liam......another cool name!
Vincentdolan.............I can accept that for a time you can believe what you are told by those that you allow influence over you especially when you are young. However, there comes a time when you become your own person and gain more control over yourself and how you let others affect you. You believe it until you know better then you decide if you will continue to give it power over you. That is a choice. Once you are aware of the difference it is up to you whether you want change or status quo.
If I am told the sky looks green I may believe it for a time but eventually I will learn the colors and my perception of them and by comparison discover that it looks blue. I then have the choice to continue "believing" that it is green or I can move on and redefine my beliefs with the best and most recent information.........a choice. We actually change our beliefs about many things everyday as we learn new things and different view points. It is the basis of tolerence and adaptability......a virtue and a life skill. The effectiveness of our ability to cope with everyday life hinges on the maturity of these two facets of our personalities along with others. We know what we know and believe what we believe until we learn different. Then we have a choice. Then it's up to us how much we grow.
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