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Post by AlvaroWang on Nov 12, 2015 19:28:54 GMT
I lost my best mate to depression/suicide and I nearly followed him ,only thing that stopped me was my infant son. I'm now on antidepressants after having a breakdown at work. They have helped me immensely to cope with the sense of guilt,loss and helplessness that my friends death has left me with. Just know that you can talk to people and that its not your fault no matter what happens,and try to be there for your friend as best you can Thank you my friend
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Post by pgandy on Nov 12, 2015 20:21:08 GMT
Depression can be a big issue and caused by a number of things. I suggest that you get professional help which it appears that you are looking into. I’ve been down the road and know that it helps when talking which you are doing. I have experienced depression and also suffer from PTSD. My buddies are all gone now except one, a disadvantage of growing old. The one exception is worse than dead having slipped on ice on his porch and is now a quadriplegic. It’s odd how a simple slip up at home can do what 20+ years of combat starting with Korea could not. We swapped many a war story as well as other stories that had been privy to no one. The same went for another buddy who died of natural causes a few years back. He was a WWII vet with 30 years in service, made 3 amphibious assaults and survived 3 wars without a scratch. We could share and relate. Now there is no one. The memories are there, but no one to share with, or at least who can understand. The depression has eased up, the PTSD has gotten better and I drink less, but I don’t know what tomorrow will bring. I wish I had my buddies back. Hang in there and work with one day at a time.
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Post by Gene J on Nov 25, 2015 14:46:28 GMT
I never thought I would look for help here either. my girl is bipolar and has borderline dissociative identity disorder,(what used to be called multiple personalities)? at first we didn't know what we were dealing with.And it kept getting worse. It still isn't fully formed other people like in movies, but that's the thing about these disorders every one is different because every mind is different.it can sometimes be like extreme moods that she can't get out of. sometimes even have flashbacks and or lose control. One time she even forgot who I was and didn't kept asking if I was real and if she really exist.ed. she is also a member of this forum and taught me tsukamaki. And has hand made sageos, even uses hishagami (hasn't taught me this yet) .Recently she had a abnormally violent flashback broke a plate and cut her arm open with it, about a inch by 5 inch laceration. I had to superglue it shut till we got to the hospital. And she has had to move about 3 hours away to start full time counseling. Last time I talked to her she told me she loved me. Then all the sudden blocked me on her phone 2weeks ago and I can't get in touch with her at all. I'm so worried and scared I've tried everything I just can't reach her and I have no idea what happened, we have been together over 2years and nothing like this has ever happened. Normally if anything she's a lil clingy (in a adorable way though ,feels good to be needed)I just can't believe this is happening. I really don't even know what happened.Btw her name on here is sitkaly.I should have known something was wrong when she left her swords here, I just figured she wasn't moving for long. I wouldn't be on here probably if it wasn't for her. she's the one who showed me Josh (Frank the bunny) 's tutorials and a ton of other info, like too much.
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Post by Croccifixio on Nov 26, 2015 1:28:31 GMT
Is there a way you could visit or call her counselor first?
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Post by Adrian Jordan on Nov 26, 2015 20:50:55 GMT
I agree. If you know how to get a hold of her counselor then maybe you can at least find out if she's alright. They can't tell you much, but anything would be good. Does she have any family that you can contact?
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Post by AlvaroWang on Nov 26, 2015 21:53:30 GMT
In this case I would ask every person I know that cares for her too to try and get in touch with her. If there is anyone near where she is at ask them to pay her a visit and as others said, try to find her counselor
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Post by Gene J on Dec 11, 2015 9:45:30 GMT
Found her IDK what to say they put her on Lithium and she seems like a totally different person. And hank you everyone for your concern you showed more caring than her family
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Post by AlvaroWang on Dec 11, 2015 23:20:08 GMT
Family most times are more of a problem. They get burdened quickly and start responding in a negative way.
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