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Post by Tiers1 on Oct 9, 2021 14:53:10 GMT
In periods of singlehood I was always a dedicated and effective dieter, and could drag myself to the weights reliably as well. Now that I am married with a wife that doesn't care about dad bod, and 39 which means no one is looking at me any more, I am finding it very hard to consciously rationalize being in particularly good shape. I think this has seeped into my subconscious and drastically eroded my willpower in the fitness regard. I am overweight but not fat, and with some muscle in my natural state- in which I can happily enjoy great food and occasional booze. These things do much to increase my happiness and quality of life. Or I can spend the next 4 months hungry and then watch myself like a hawk, forever, after reaching my target weight in order to carry around knowledge that I look good, which is irrelevant anyway in my circumstance. When I look at who goes to the gym with any level of dedication (at least at the gym I work out at) it is pretty clear others have had the same conundrum and made their choice. Practical thoughts?
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Post by pellius on Oct 9, 2021 16:15:43 GMT
Future you wants you to work out today.
If you have children, or intend to have any, they will want you to be healthy, strong, and long-lived.
Being the “best” physical version of yourself will continually aid you in social, economic, and domestic success.
Today is the easiest day to work out that you will ever have.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2021 17:31:49 GMT
What I do is practice with weapons and I also practice boxing drills. My goal is to be stronger and to improve my form, and endurance. I been loosing extra fat as a result, but not as a goal. I prefer exercising this way as there isnt much room to be disappointed when losing weight isn't the goal, but I find myself losing weight anyway
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Post by Zen_Hydra on Oct 9, 2021 19:08:49 GMT
I am struggling with medical stuff, and both the illness and the treatment currently make me feel like garbage. I try to take advantage of the opportunities to work out as they present themselves. Sometimes getting moving vigorously for a bit is good enough to improve the way I feel the rest of the day.
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Post by tera on Oct 9, 2021 19:17:04 GMT
I'm 40, at high end of "Normal" BMI but not overweight. In the past few years my Doctor had myopically been saying I was in the best health in years.
What was really happening was muscle loss, malnutrition, and hypertension. I made a trip to the ER late at night on Mother's Day of this year.
First advice is to consult a competent physician's advice. My personal lesson learned is as you age diet, exercise, and proper rest are less about looking good and more about long-term wellness. I had the harsh awakening this year that unless I am diligent I may never practice Aikido or Judo again, let alone teach. Even if I can, how many years of that are left for me?
We know that as you age, you reach a point where you hit an apex of muscle mass and bone density. It makes sense to try to stack the cards in your favor to get those as solid as possible, and keep working so the deterioration is as long and slow as possible.
I may live another 30 or 40 years, but I don't want to do so enfeebled and in misery. So, I am working out, eating differently, and avoiding abusive job environments as best I can.
Also, I found a different (competent) Doctor after that unexpected ER trip to help me along the way.
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Post by Robert in California on Oct 9, 2021 23:25:56 GMT
Ok, first of all, know that as one ages, the "sins of one's youth" re-emerge. In my first bout of college, I hurt my knee skiing. I was like, 20 and it healed and I shrugged it off as a 100% heal. Now, as more of a "senior citizen", that knee injury re-emerged and said, "Dude, remember me?" So now, I have a knee to be careful with. Also, I spent some years doing a weekly MMA class and while the karate and boxing "sparring" could be injury-free by pulling punches...ie. tag the opponent instead of slugging the opponent, judo falls can cause injuries...many and repeated hard falls, even on a dojo mat, can take a toll and now I have a hip that is not what it used to be, to the point, I had to discontinue classes, to avoid aggravating the injury. Dittos with an ankle injury from falling wrong in judo. At our Dojo annual judo tournaments, competing vs other clubs/dojos, there were always at least a few injuries serious enough to need the attending doctor's attention. Face it, judo is where the injuries are. So now I limp. But at least I can do sword (forms and cutting). That is nice. Hard to do a lot, as once married, with kids and English-limited relatives (being the only anglo, I get to do everyone's taxes and pretty much everyone's paperwork....plus helping kids with their school work, field trips, and of course domestic honey-does, practice time is limited. Exercise (to stay in shape) needs to be fun. Walking a loop around the neighborhood is a bore. Playing tennis with much younger folks is more fun and so is preferred to the walks. But not all young folks want to play with an older, less agile, slower player. When single, I could watch what I ate more. Married? Try telling the wife, after she spent hours cooking a nice meal, that you aren't hungry. Not a smooth move. If one wants a happy wife, one eats the dinner and shows appreciation....even if one has to buy bigger pants in time. I like the outdoors....but hard to get out when there is so much chores and paperwork to do for the extended family. So? So it is what it is. A dream of one day having the money to retire and thus more time to do fun healthy activities such as more sword practice, etc.
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